“My partner is a top I am too (sometimes I bottom, he never bottoms). “My first threesome was my best friend and I going up to a guy at a party and being really straightforward and asking if he would like to have a threesome with us.”-Margot, 20, Minneapolis “It’s often been an all night affair and not just a 20-30 minute experience, which to me is pretty great!” -Thomas, 30, Asbury Park With whom do you have threesomes? How did you get into it? My wife, for example, shocked herself how quickly she would climax just watching me with another man” -Andre, 29, Houston “There are times where taking a break and watching your partner with someone can be a blast too. So threesomes can be a great way to learn more about your own partner and yourself sexually.” -Ben, 32, Boston “Actually, I’ve learned some new ways to push my husband’s buttons because of the way a third engages with him or tries something on him. Porque no los dos?” -Louis, 36, Santa Cruz Also the taboo of it? If that makes sense? I love watching people fuck. “It's like being IN a porn that you are also watching. It’s actually shocking how many people (especially couples) are out at the bars hoping to find a new recruit.” -Angela, 42, Oklahoma City Now that I recognize like-minded people, it is easy to sense someone’s ‘vibe’. “Before I was into all of this I was completely oblivious to my surroundings. First thing’s first: how do you even set up a threesome? So, I reached out to people who have “regular or semi-regular” threesomes, and I learned a lot about what it takes to make one happen, and what makes them so damn hot. However, people aren’t actually having that many threesomes, only 3% of people surveyed had a threesome in the past year, and only 1% of people surveyed had one in the past month. Justin Lehmiller, who interviewed over 4,000 couples for his book Tell Me What You Want, having a threesome is the top sexual fantasy, although men seem to be a bit more intrigued by the idea ( a separate study showed that 82% of men and 31% of women reported at least some interest in having a threesome). The allure of the ménage à trois cannot be ignored. Three is a magic number, especially when it comes to sex. If you’ve seen any image of Idris Elba in a three piece suit you get it.